Tuesday, October 01, 2013

The Stressed Husband


On some days where he had an intense critical non-stopping battle on the site, he'd come home later, finish his dinner and then predictably, stone at the patio with a cigarette. He'd be using his phone most of the time too, then shower, and then go back to the patio with his phone and another cigarette. He is totally in another world. And then lock up the doors and plonk down on the bed. He'd snore almost immediately.

On some nights, he'd be out drinking. I am usually asleep or half-asleep by the time he trudge home, reeking of alcohol. 

No exchange of words, no hugs or kisses. That's how some days are.

I feel sorry for him, I really am. I wonder if I am doing enough to support him. My method is to leave him alone to dwell in his cave (the author of Men from Mars, Women from Venus said so!) and give him his space. I know I can do more. I used to drop him messages of encouragement, do little sweet things, buy stuff for him, but now I feel like I'm withholding all those affections due to resentment.

I'm tired too.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi Ally,

Sounds like tough situation. Would you like to visit the crystal healer at Bandar Baru Uda? He can help by doing crystal healing on stressed or sick person. Need not your husband go, but you can go too. It is just two doors away from the 7eleven (which is near the mosque) and Ramadan bazar area. beside 7eleven will be a hardware shop, and this pranic healing is just above it, but you need to make appointment before you go and the master is not there daily also. he will come when there is appointment. En Zul 0197406786 you can sms for an apt else make a call too.

Sally

Ally said...

Hi Sally, I didn't know you were into crystal healing. We have never sought it before. And it's so near my house! Thank you for the recommendation.

Anonymous said...

Hi Ally,

Everyone has family problems, personal problems or even work problems. I am into crystal healing since 10 yrs ago. Normally go for it when I am exhausted and extremely stressed. you can also discuss your problems with the master. hopefully he can help you resolve some.

Sally

Mohammad Ezzani said...

Hi Sally,

Do you have cikgu Zul latest hand phone no?

Thank you,
Ezzani